Monday, April 16, 2007

Jesus, I'm Home


...Love cannot be equated with lust; an animalistic drive to consume something without rationality or understanding. What should ensue in a relationship is a deep appreciation and affection for someone; that is what defines a relationship.

A connection of closeness and bond that uplifts you and provides you with security, freeing you from your insecurities and fears; one that is not based upon hours of make out sessions, sex or further superficial stimulants but based upon a collected and composed direction of tenderness and hope. One such example will be the love a parent has for a child, one that is predicated upon feeding and nurturing on a physical and spiritual sphere, enlightening and refreshing ones mind and coercing a drive to succeed and always striving to achieve ones best self.

Relationships based upon sexual notions (which derive itself from the animal instincts of the human psyche) have often times proceeded to annihilate any form of rational understanding of one another. It is arguable to say that animals themselves do have love but the level of emotionality that can be compared to that of a human is at vastly different volumes and that of a human is only at its peak due to the process of natural selection (evolution).

Sexual content within relationships serve to destabilize the control one has over his autonomy thus affecting the balance of power between both individuals, creating a rift; with a certain portion of the power being submitted at an excess to one side making one party subservient to the other and in turn jeopardising the entire framework, covertly enslaving one party to the other and the meaning of love at its essence is lost. If the only importance one plays upon that relationship is ‘mindless sex and personal enjoyment’, never for once considering the reciprocation that happens in an equally balanced relationship, he/she is bound to suffer from an addiction to that mirage of love and will then continue to suffer a misunderstanding of himself/herself, life and love.

Mutuality, compromise, understanding and unity are the pillars that form the foundation of love; the very qualities which spawn the spirit of good parenting, marriage (cohabitation included) and general youth relationships. Love and lust should never be used interchangeably. Sex on the other hand is not a product of something evil, though it can be abused. In reality, sex should be the act that alleviates ones love for another where the existence of love was first spawned through an emotional bond; sex creates a bridge where this can be expressed physically, in other words; It is only when an emotional bond is created initially, can sex then be procured to heighten the experience at a new and further level...